Dancing With Mr D



It’s been a busy few weeks for Death.

Alongside the 151,600 unknowns who die on a daily basis, he’s been rounding up some major icons – Lemmy, David Bowie, Alan Rickman and his latest recruit, Glenn Frey.

Lemmy was 70. Bowie and Alan Rickman were both 69. Glenn was 67.

Death at this age doesn’t surprise me. Most developed countries accept the age of 65 to be elderly, though my mother would argue the toss on that one. She was NEVER an old aged pensioner!

To put things into perspective, Lemmy, David, Alan and Glenn were all OAP’s.

Most of my idols are a good twenty years older then me so that puts them in this age bracket which means that Mr D (Death) will have his eye socket on a few more before too long. It’s simply a matter of nature taking it’s course and a reminder that while fame can bring you fortune, it can’t bring you immortality in the physical sense.

There are exceptions to the rule though. Bruce Forsyth appears to be immortal. The Queen is 90 next birthday and certainly looks like she could carry on for another 90 (if only to piss Charles off) but your average rock star does well to make it to old age – such is the consequence of life in the fast lane.

Why The Grief?

Since Bowie and Alan Rickman died, the sincerity of grief shown by the public has been called into question by certain people like Camilla Long who writes for The Times..

“So many people “crying” or “in bits” over Bowie. F**K YOU. You are not ten – you are an adult. Man the F**K up and say something interesting.”

My favourite response came from Lucie Toblerone:

“Log off then, you dullard”

Camilla whinged that she’d been treated like Katie Hopkins on social media which doesn’t surprise me because it’s exactly the type of inflammatory crap that Hopkins comes out with and, like Hopkins, she deserves what she gets.

I would think there was something very wrong with humanity if Bowie had died and nobody expressed sadness or grief. I think at that point, annihilation would be in order, no?

Do we have to know a person in order to grieve?

I don’t think so.

It may not be the same grief that we’d feel for a loved one but it’s grief all the same and who are people to belittle it? What makes them think they can sit in judgement over others as if their world view is the one we should all live by?

Lemmy, Bowie, Alan and Glenn have gone but they will never be forgotten because they live on in their music and films.

David Bowie


Bowie was so much more than a musician. He shocked the world with his persona, Ziggy Stardust. Dad, along with his generation, didn’t know what to make of him. Bowie broke all the rules and we wont ever see the likes of him again because it’s all been done now.

Bowie gave people a reason to keep going – music is that powerful. He helped so many ‘weirdo’s find a place in the world and for that alone, he’s worthy of the title ‘icon’.



Lemmy was the epitome of rock and roll.

Listening to Motorhead (and heavy rock music in general) helped me get a grip on adolescence. Lemmy’s gritty voice and fast paced music filled me with a confidence I desperately needed – such was the effect his music had on me. We are from the same town in the Potteries. He was one of ours – a fellow Stokie. So, yes, I am sad he’s gone.

Alan Rickman


I’ve shouted “BASTARD!!!” at the TV screen during Love Actually and fallen in love with his serious Severus face in Harry Potter. I cried proper snot-faced tears when his love for Lilly Potter was revealed. I didn’t know Alan but his acting touched me truly, madly and deeply. I will remember him, always.

Glen Frey


Today we lost another rock and roll great in Mr Glenn Frey who ‘checked out’ at the age of 67.

See what I did there?

Frey was a founding member of The Eagles and I have so many memories connected to their music. I must have listened to Hotel California a thousand times and never tire of hearing that amazing guitar solo – arguably one of the best there is.

Take it Easy, Already Gone and Lying Eyes evoke memories of hot summer days ( before air-con) winding my cassette tape back in with a pencil. Cassette players in cars, imagine that..

Music has a physical effect on me. My mood changes with the tempo and I can lose myself in the imagery that the music conjours up. It’s pure escapism to me and the day it stops affecting me is the day I no longer want to be here because I won’t be me anymore.

I am genuinely sad that these men are no longer here. I do feel that a part of me is grieving. Is that wrong? I don’t think so.

A lot of stars who started out in the 60’s abused drink and drugs – especially in their heydays – so longevity is a big ask. That said, I thought Lemmy did exceptionally well to make it to 70 considering his history which included downing a bottle of Jack Daniels every day from the age of 30.

Point is, we don’t need a crystal ball to know that we will be losing a few more icons in the not too distant future..

Having read Terry Pratchett’s Discworld books, I can’t help but think upon Death as having a personality.  So I imagine him dancing in the streets with Bowie – headbanging with Lemmy – pretending to use the Avada Kedavra curse on Alan and tapping his phalanges along to Already Gone with Glenn before taking them to heaven.

Camilla Whatserface is wrong. You don’t have to know a person in order to grieve when they die.

In my darkest moments it was the voice of a stranger that got me through, not somebody I knew. Is that not deserving of emotion when that person dies?

It’s OK to grieve for someone you don’t know. It’s what makes us human.

Lemmy, David, Alan and Glen,

Thanks for the memories.

Rest in peace.

No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away. Terry Pratchett  Reaper Man

A Bit Of Everything

Image Credit David Bowie by Avro

Image Credit – Lemmy by MarkMarek at the English Language Wikipedia

Image Credit – Alan Rickman by Marie -Lan Nguyen

Image credit – Glen Frey by Steve Alexander


21 thoughts on “Dancing With Mr D

  1. I was never really a fan of Bowie but I can see his influence over artists I do like.

    Can sympathise with the spilling of tears over a lost idol though. I was inconsolable when the Smiths split. Never really got over it to the point I resented everything Morrissey did afterwards.


  2. A brilliant tribute to talent that is lost forever. No one will ever replace these unique individuals but their memories live on in music and film.


  3. A brilliant post about human grief and a lovely tribute! Some of whom you have mentioned have also been part of my formative years as well and there is bound to be a certain sentimentality and grief. I feel like I have to say thank you and good bye. Thanks for sharing with #abitofeverything

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  4. Lovely tribute and I think people are entitled to feel grief over deaths of idols. They have an impact on our lives, after all. I would much rather live in a world where people care enough to feel sad rather than be stony-faced! x

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  5. Grief is such a personal thing, I was sad to find out that these stars had died but I don’t think I grieved. Alan Rickman was a brilliant actor and I cannot believe he is no longer with us. But I will still get to see him every Christmas when I watch Love Actually. Sadness, loss, it’s all very personal and I think that woman was wrong to call out others for expressing their grief. Everyone has their own way.

    Stopping by from Izzie Anderton’s blog.

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  6. All these people were a part of our lives whether we knew them personally or not. We had a relationship with them. We are very lucky that they have a body of work we can continue to enjoy and lots of other people we can appreciate it with. This of course does not happen with our nearest and dearest. They hold the best part of our heart forever without any fame.

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