You don’t look autistic.
Is autism supposed to have a look?
When a person says, ‘You don’t look autistic’, it’s fairly obvious they don’t have a blithering clue what autism is. Maybe they watched Rain Man and believe that every autistic person looks like Dustin Hoffman?
Or, that you should be wearing a skull guard helmet..
In all fairness, people probably think they are paying you a compliment (ish) but what they are actually doing is belittling the difficulties that you face on a daily basis. Also, in that person’s eyes it puts you above other autistic people (such as those who do wear protective head gear) because you can pass for ‘normal’ and they can’t.
Here’s the thing..
I don’t consider myself to be better (or less) than any other autistic person.
I don’t consider myself better (or less) than any neurotypical person.
We are all human beings.
You’re obviously high-functioning.
If by high functioning you mean I can speak, dress myself, take myself to the toilet and do housework? Yes, I can do those things.. However, to me, the term ‘highly functioning’ implies that I can do things WAY better than the average person.
A super functioner?
Where’s my cape and tights?!
Super strength? FUNCTIONING.
The reality is that a good day requires a LOT of effort and some days I struggle to function at all. When I am overwhelmed, I stop functioning aside the very basics needed to keep my family and myself alive. I shut down. I can’t speak. I can’t read beyond a single sentence. I can’t complete simple tasks like washing the dishes or folding laundry. My brain buffers, then freezes and it can take days for it to unravel itself. I have to spend hours on my own in order for this to happen.
Last night, I was in bed for 7pm.
Would you say this is functioning highly?
What’s 97865 multiplied by 98?
Why do some people assume that autistic people are math geniuses? I can’t stand the motherfudging subject!
My dislike (bordering on the pathological) of mathematics started in 1975 with the words ‘add and take away’.
I’ve been hyperventilating ever since..
I can give you the answer, but I’ll need a calculator.
In contrast, The Boy could recite his entire 12 times table at the age of 4. He likes maths – the weirdo.
What medication do you take for it?
I don’t take medication for my autism because it’s NOT A FARKING ILLNESS!!
I do, however, take medication for migraines, arthritis and the general aches and pains which comes from being an old fart.
Autism is an excuse for bad behaviour.
Autistic people don’t choose to have meltdowns.
They don’t wake up and think, ‘You know what? I REALLY fancy losing my shit today. Toast, anyone?’
It’s not a nice feeling to lose control, whether it manifests outwardly or internally. It is a reaction to overwhelming situations and having to use up so much energy trying to survive in an overwhelming world.
It’s EXTREME ANXIETY, not bad behaviour.
My sister’s friend’s brother is autistic. You’re nothing like him.
Firstly, I don’t have the necessary parts to be like your sister’s friend’s brother.
Secondly, no two autistic people are the same – just as no two NT people are the same.
Autistic people have similarities but all have different abilities and strengths. That said, we do share one thing in common, which is that each and every one of us is FABULOUSLY AWESOME!
You’re married, can hold down a job, have children. How can you do these things if you’re autistic?
With a great deal of effort, cocker.
I drive as well! Fancy that? An autistic person being let loose on the roads. QUELLE HORREUR!
P.S 25 + years of driving. No points. No parking tickets.
I also manage to drive AND lick the windscreen at the same time.
You’ve just been sarcastic. YOU CAN’T BE AUTISTIC!!!!!
I do irony too.
You’re a person with autism. You should use first language.
I am autistic. I am an autistic person. My autism defines me otherwise I wouldn’t be me.
Here, I can only speak for myself as some autistic people wouldn’t thank you for calling them autistic. They would be up in your face faster than you can fart. Having said that, the majority of autistic people use the term ‘autistic person’.
Incidentally, I saw a Facebook thread where the parent of an autistic teenager was having a mini-rant about people using the word ‘Aspie’ because it’s insulting, apparently.
The fact is that most people with Aspergers, refer to themselves as an Aspie.
I refer to myself as an Aspie but primarily I am an autistic person.
You can look me in the eye. You can’t be autistic!
Technically, I’m looking above your pupil but it’s such a subtle thing, you’re unlikely to be aware of it. As a child, I spent hours standing in the corner at school for being ‘rude’ and not looking at the teacher. I wasn’t EVER being rude. It distressed me to look people in the eye, so, technically, I was abused by every teacher who ever punished me for not doing it.
It’s taken decades for me to be able to maintain eye contact with people other than my immediate family and even now, when I am anxious, I will spend more time looking at your feet than your face. I have to remind myself to look up occasionally.
Yes, I can look you in the eye – sort of – and I am autistic.